I was listening to NPR this past weekend. There was an interview with Ariel Levy, author of The Rules Do Not Apply.
During the interview she was recounting a couple of life changing personal experiences. A miscarriage at 5 months of pregnancy, and the loss of her marriage from her spouse's addiction. The interview was so interesting that I purchased the book and am just starting it now. Toward the end of the interview she said something so profound, it made me stop and think. The author talked about coming to the realization that those were things in her life over which she had no control. That all this time she was trying to change those things, and it was a futile attempt. She had to let go of those circumstances, release that effort of control, and focus on those areas of her life which were under her control, those things she could impact to change her life situation.
She decided to let go, to release. That word, release, was my word for the year 2014. A thoughtful, life changing word for me. Releasing events, people, circumstances, effort, things, and making room for more, so much more.
It can be so freeing to let go. Try it. Really take inventory of your life, every aspect, your friends, your interests, your relationships, your living situation and make decisions. Are these things working for you, are they moving you in a forward direction toward more. Or are they wasted effort. Are there areas you want to change over which you have control, or does that control fall somewhere else. Then make the conscious choice to let go, to release. When you release you free up space in your head, in your life, in your day, for other relationships to blossom, for other ideas to percolate, for other interests to take root. You free up time to work toward the change you want to see happen. You free up energy to work on those areas that pull on your attention. Great things happen when you make the choice to release that which is not serving you.
I need to revisit that space periodically. Like a room in my house, it needs cleaning on a regular basis. I need to focus energy on releasing, to make way for continued growth. I am so looking forward to reading this book, and seeing her process.