When I started working pediatrics, I became more educated about breastfeeding. I then joined the US Army. I was assigned to the 5th MASH, but when we were not in the field I worked in the Maternal-Child Health Section of WAMC at Fort Bragg, assigned to the Nursery. I enjoyed that, and went on to become a lactation consultant. So I knew breastfeeding would be the route I would take as a mother, and that is exactly what I did, nothing unusual there.
Jackson and I have two beautiful boys, both born in Germany. Dallen was born in 1994 in Frankfurt and he breastfed from the beginning, no problems there. Phillip was born in 1997, and even though he spent his first night in the NICU in Augsburg, I continued to breastfeed him and his older brother. I was fortunate in that I knew about breastfeeding, and knew the facts about tandem nursing and knew that I could do it.
So I tandem nursed. We traveled a bit in Europe while we were there (we returned to the states in December 1997), I never had any negative interactions while breastfeeding in Europe, only positive ones. It was nice, it was normal, it was just a part of daily living. We traveled as a family to the states a few times while we lived in Germany, and everyone on those flights was wonderful. Flight attendants and passengers. I was not a modest nursing mom, although I wasn't "in your face" about it either. I was discreet but not in a "I need to hide this" sort of way. Nursing anywhere other than where I was at the time, just never crossed my mind. And when I had two to nurse, well....there is no way to be discreet about that. Everything was out on display. But no one seemed to mind at all. And I even had other passengers on flights, stop to say what a great job I was doing. Although I am sure they were just happy that my two were sleeping.
So my breastfeeding experience was very positive, and uplifting. We decided that child-led weaning was the way to go. I was not working outside the home, and it was what felt right. We co slept with our children and they nursed at night more than during the day, as they aged. Toward the end of our breastfeeding days they only nursed at bedtime. It was a very connected experience that, I feel, enhanced those relationships. My oldest son nursed until the day before he turned five. Not sure if the excitement of his birthday disrupted his pattern or he was just done, but that was the last time he nursed. My youngest nursed longer. He stopped nursing Valentines day before he turned eight. So Feb 14 he stopped and Mar 22 he turned 8, almost one month prior was his last time nursing. Funny how we remember certain dates.
So yes, I breastfed my boys, I nursed while pregnant, tandem nursed, practiced extended breastfeeding as well as child led weaning. All the little details are a bit foggy as time has washed over them.
And that really is our experience, condensed into one blog post. I know there are other mothers out there that will read this and find a little comfort knowing there are other extended breastfeeding moms out there. Know you are not alone. And there are some who have probably been told you can't nurse while you are pregnant or other such myths, know that you can, I did. Know that whatever your breastfeeding journey is, it is all OK, it is your journey. Never compare yourself to me or anyone. No one will have your journey, it is unique to you and your child/ren.
The above picture is my oldest son Dallen. I love this picture because of the memory associated with it. His favorite movie, at that time, was Chitty Chitty Bang Bang. LOVED IT. And we both knew all the songs. He totally enjoyed getting in the hammock and pretending it was Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, and we would sing the songs and pretend we were flying in the car.
And here I am nursing Phil in the NICU.