Tuesday, July 26, 2016

What Did You Inherit From Your Parents?

A friend attended a community gathering and the speaker posed this question to the audience; what did you inherit from your parents? I thought this was a great question, so I have been thinking a lot about this lately.

There are the obvious answers like...I inherited my hazel eyes from my dad.  I inherited my weight issue from my mother (not an obvious answer and really it is long post for another time). But there are deeper answers as well.

I inherited my feelings of abundance and providing for my family, from my father, as well as my sense of knowing when I need to slow down.  My father would work two jobs if he had to, to provide for his family and make sure there was food on the table.  He also knew the value of a good nap.

I inherited my perseverance from my mother, she walked through some really tough times in her life and came out the other side.  She knew how to handle stress and difficulties and remain standing, placing one foot in front of the other.

One of my mother's favorite phrases was "think for yourself".  I heard that many...many...many times growing up. And I pass this along to my children as well.  Judge people based on your own personal interactions, don't let rumors and gossip rule your brain. Follow your gut. You know in your gut what is right, and make sure to stand up for what you believe to be right.  She really walked the talk.

They both also believed we are all equal here on this earth and we need to help each other through. Lend a hand when you can, and don't be afraid to ask for help.  Root for the underdog, someday it may be you that is the underdog in need of someone cheering you on.

And one last thought on what I inherited from my parents is to be there for family. I have always tried to really live this.  To be there when my family needs me, and when they don't.  To not let those ties slip loose.

So take a few minutes today to think about what you inherited from your parents.

Monday, July 25, 2016

Feeling Guilty

Have you ever had that feeling just pop up out of nowhere in the middle of the day.  I am not a "guilt" kind of person.  I mean if I feel guilty about something I have done or said, or not done or said, I apologize if appropriate, and/or change my behavior or my head space.  I do something different, try to move feelings around a bit.  And not hang in that guilt feeling.

But today I am not feeling well.  feeling really tired and...I don't even know how to explain how I physically feel, but like I am just worn down right now.  So I am doing some resting today.  I feel like my body is telling me to take it easy, not push it.  I am honoring that feeling.  But out of nowhere this afternoon, I started feeling this overwhelming guilt.  Like I should be up and doing things, anything, something.  I should be outside doing yard work, or cleaning or more cooking.  Like I am being some kind of poor example for my boys.

Even though I know this isn't the case.  I know I am being a good example by taking care of myself when I need it.  I am showing them that they, also, should put themselves at the top of their priority list. By taking care of myself more today, I will have that extra energy when they need me to help them.  Now I do want to say, that neither of my boys sees me the way I am feeling right now.  It is just one of those "all the thoughts that run through my head" kind of days.

Maybe writing it out here will help, maybe not.  I am sure this feeling will pass, and I am sure my energy will pick up. But for now I need to take things slower today, and I know this.  I am not going to give into the guilt and push myself beyond what my body is telling me to do today.  But I wish the feeling would hurry up and move on.  Guilt is certainly an exhausting feeling in and of itself, and one I am glad I don't feel often.

I hope you all are having a restful day if you need it today.

Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Another Favorite Restaurant

OK this one is in Asheville and the food is DELICIOUS.  Ask anyone who is vegetarian, gluten free and dairy free and they will tell you that eating out is impossible.  So if you find a restaurant where you can have more than just salad (hold the cheese and hold the croutons) it is WONDERFUL!  Rosetta's Kitchen is just that place.  So many options on the menu, or vegan dishes that can be made gluten free that I actually had to take a few minutes to actually read the menu.

I had dined here a few weeks ago with a couple of friends, one lives in Asheville and suggested we give it a try.  Last night Jackson, the boys and I traveled up the mountain to celebrate our oldest's, Dallen's, birthday. They all enjoyed Rosetta's Kitchen as well, yes, even our youngest, Phillip, who is always skeptical of vegetarian restaurants (although I don't know why).

Another treat, they have a kombucha bar, so many flavors to choose from.  Jackson had a flight, which is a sampling of the six flavors, and I had the earth flavor, my favorite.  Our youngest, who professes to hate kombucha, finished up half of mine as well as several of Jackson's.  The kombucha you can try in many grocery stores, farmer's markets and restaurants in the Southeast.

So if you are ever in Asheville this is another place to stop, we will definitely be eating here again!!

Monday, July 18, 2016

Find Your People

Not your family, your people.  I love my family dearly, but they are not here, around me, on a daily basis. So I have had to find my people, which hasn't always been easy for this introvert.  It is hard to make the decision to step through a door, talk to people I don't know, see how things click or don't click.  That is a hard step.

For years my people have been the homeschooling community.  I have such wonderful friends that I have met through different homeschooling groups, friends from around the country and the world.  I so enjoy that circle of friends. I do have several homeschooling friendships that have made it through the homeschooling journey and we are all still friends now, as our kids are aging out of the homeschool arena.  It is such a joy to get together with these people.

But I have developed another circle of friends, this surrounds our common interest in knitting.  I stepped outside my comfort zone a year or two ago, and decided to join in on a knitting circle in Morganton. This wasn't easy.  For an introvert it is much easier to just maintain current friendships, rather than work to create new ones. The knitting circle has evolved and now I attend a weekly circle on Saturday mornings and it is such a highlight for me.  These women are so funny and smart.  Some weeks there are two or three of us and other weeks more.  Some Saturdays we talk politics and more serious issues.  Other weekends we laugh so hard tears are rolling down my face. This past weekend was a laughing circle.

I didn't get a whole lot of knitting done but I laughed so hard my side hurt.  I love a group that is so diverse but can still find so much to talk and laugh about.  I enjoy talking homesteading, gardening, politics, religion. As well as throwing out ideas and coming up with some of the most creative, innovative, crazy ideas for knitting projects.  So many projects, that I work on, have evolved from discussions we have had at the Saturday morning knitting circle.  This group of women just amazes me and is such a joy to be a part of.

So I encourage you all to find your people.  Those that stretch the fabric of who you are, challenge your ideas, inspire creativity, laugh and cry with you. Step outside your comfort zone and find those people. Those are the people who add so much color to life.  FIND YOUR PEOPLE!

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Recurring Dream

I had a dream the other night and it was the same dream I have had many times.  Well not exactly, the dream is generally different but the house is the same, and it is not a house I have ever seen before.  This house is a large house.

In the dream Jackson, the boys and I are living in only half of the house, which is a great size for the four of us.  LARGE living room, and a step down and around to a large dining area and kitchen.  The kitchen is older but fabulous.  There is also another large room, like a family room.  There are four bedrooms and at least two bathrooms.  The whole house has an old Hollywood feel, glitter and pattern and a lavish look, although very comfortable for us.

I mentioned that we were living in only half of the house, the other half has not been renovated, so is very old, dusty, with wallpaper peeling, and in my dream this half is in black and white.  But the boys and I love roaming around this unfinished side, dreaming of how it will look when it is finished, playing games.  Which, when complete, will give us a huge amazing house.

Anyway this is just a dream, or rather several dreams.  All different with the one fabulous house bringing all my dreams together.  I feel like I can see it so clearly in my head that this house has got to be out there waiting for us, somewhere.  Maybe someday we will run into my dream house!

What recurring dreams do you have?

Monday, July 11, 2016

Mother to Mother

I sat here on my computer Thursday morning and read another article about a young African American man being shot by a police officer. I won't go into the details of the incident because I am sure you all know.  The details seem to repeat themselves over and over.  I just sat here and cried big blubbering tears.  My husband never knows what to say or do when I am crying like this, so he just sits here silently.

I just feel so heart broken for this young man's mother. As a mother, I cry for these mothers.  I know what it is like to worry about your son when he leaves the house without you.  But I don't know that depth of worry. As a Caucasian mother of Caucasian sons, I don't know what it is like to worry about them on that level.  I worry about their driving, the road conditions, other drivers.  I never give a thought about police officers as an obstacle. That thought just makes me cry sitting here now.  I can't imagine what it is like to be the mother of that child.  At this moment in history I am grateful to be a Caucasian mother of Caucasian sons.  I am ashamed that I live in a society where this is true. And maybe I should be ashamed that the thought crossed my mind, but it did Thursday morning.

I don't have any answers.  I do know that I have a vote.  This is not only an election for president, but also city and state representatives. And my plan is to vote for the candidates that I feel will take on this challenge and meet it head on, working toward bringing us together, finding real, workable solutions.  Making this country safe again, for EVERYONE.  I will not be voting for those that rally hatred and division.  Those that speak of bigotry on any level, for anyone. I want so much more for my sons and for every mothers' sons.

So I cry as one mother to another mother, my heart goes out to you.

Friday, July 8, 2016

Friday Photo- Passion Fruit Flower

This is not my photo, Jackson took this one.  It is a photo of his passion fruit flower.  He grew this plant from a seed and we have seen buds on the plant but this is the first flower, so beautiful!

This is a cooperative blogging post, to see Nancy's Friday Photo visit her blog, A Present Moment.

Thursday, July 7, 2016

Dunderhead at the Red, White and Bluegrass Festival

OK so I found another new favorite.  This is a group from Sweden, yes you saw that right all the way from Sweden to Morganton North Carolina.  Such a sweet soulful sound, I love it.  But never would have though bluegrass music would come out of Europe. Enjoy this piece.

Don't you love the sound.  Here is their web site in case you are interested in learning more about them.

And here is a small blurb from their web site:  "The group is active in Gothenburg, but consists of great musicians from different parts of Sweden. Angelina, with a reputation as Sweden’s upcoming country artist, was born and raised in Lund, where she started out playing the classical piano. Anders Ternesten who brought together The Moonshine Brothers in 2011 has a long record as band leader and solid banjo player from Gothenburg. Mikael Grund is well reputed as one of Europes greatest leadsingers in bluegrass music and he moved with his mandolin from Stöllet in Värmland down to Gothenburg. In the beginning of December 2013 the band got a new bass player as the wonderful Carl Karlsson from Småland came to join in. Finally, the young and talented guitarist Jimmy Hermansson from Trollhättan, adds the extra spice to push this band up the top ladder of what Europe has to offer in this genre."

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Young Musicians

Oh My GOSH!  The kids are just amazing!  There is a kids camp that goes on during the Red, White, and Bluegrass Festival.  Different bluegrass groups donate their time during the festival to work with the children that want to learn and each year it is such a HUGE hit.  Kids from 5 or 6 years old all the way up through the teen years participate and have a wonderful time coming together and learning.  I love watching them on stage, and I will tell you, you can't get a more receptive audience than at the Red, White and Bluegrass festival.  Some of the kids are so comfortable on stage, some are concentrating so hard, some are just beginners, almost too small to hold their instruments and some are ready to move on to a career in bluegrass. All ages, all skill levels, and so amazing.  The audience cheers and stands for them all and is so encouraging with their praise after the set is over.

OK you can't see it well in the photo, but the upright bass players are in the back, the instruments are quite LARGE.  I chuckled as they were filing off the stage, one of the last kids off stage was an upright bass player, and he was tiny.  Maybe 6 or 7 years old.  He was shorter than the body of the upright bass itself, but he picked it up and marched off the stage.  So dedicated.

Tuesday, July 5, 2016

Red, White and Bluegrass: Front Country

Jackson and I spent the holiday weekend at the Red, White and Bluegrass Festival in Morganton.  It has become a yearly event for us and I so enjoy seeing and hearing all the groups that perform, but I especially enjoy finding a group that I had never heard of before and falling in love with their music.  Nothing better than that new discovery, for me.  Saturday it was a band called "Front Country".  I had never heard of them before. Their music is not traditional bluegrass music, they take bluegrass music and put their own spin on it. Just real progressive, the lead singer, Melody Walker, called it California Bluegrass.  So I bought their CD and am now a fan.

Take a listen:

You can find their tour dates and information on their web site.

Friday, July 1, 2016

Two of Our Puppies: Friday Photo

Could he roll up in a tighter ball, aka "naptime"

One of Jackson's best friends.  She loves sleeping ON him.

Too cute!

This is a cooperative blogging post, to see Nancy's Friday Photo visit her blog, A Present Moment!