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So.... "Is there something you need to let go of?, Explain.", is the question for today. And this came at just the perfect time. I mentioned in an earlier post that I have been in a funk lately, it really lifted the day after mother's day. DUH!! How come it takes so long for some light bulbs to turn on? I think Saturday and Sunday were particularly hard for me, I just felt like I was riding on the edge of tears for two days, sometimes breaking down and crying for no reason at all (in my mind).
I have never had a mother's day being a mother with a mother. My very first mother's day was spent in Germany. My mother was alive then but she was so very far away. We talked on the phone but that was it. All mother's day celebrations since that one have been without my own mother. And have all had a touch of sadness mixed in with the wonderful joy of being a mother. I love being a mother, it is one of the best decisions I have ever made, and I love watching my wonderful men grow. So I have never really understood why mother's day has been so hard for me. After mother's day is over I always feel a little let down, a little relieved and a lot less pressure. I don't know why these feelings happen. But they do.
I feel the loss of my own mother all the time. Although it isn't overwhelming, and I have learned to live in a world without her. I have learned that I can hold more than one emotion, in my heart, at the same time. So I can feel sadness as well as joy, together, side by side. But why is mother's day so much harder than any other day. I haven't figured that out yet. But it hit me this past weekend that it is mother's day that is so hard, specifically. And the week leading up to mother's day is hard as well. That part I am just figuring out.
I really would love to work on letting go of any expectations I have surrounding mother's day. I would love to let go of the "tradition" that I have created for myself, of mixed emotions, feeling heavy, feeling weighted down and on the edge of tears. I want to let go of all of that.
Letting go, for me, will involve creating a different reality. So next year things will be different, I will start to create a new tradition of mother's day. I will let go of that pain. I will celebrate my mother, and being a mother. That day will be different for me. I hope to share a wonderful, joy-filled "new" mother's day with you all next year.
If you would like to read my friend, Nancy's, answer to this question, please visit her blog, A Present Moment.