I don't like being in a state of stress. I know there is stress all around in daily life. I get that, but you know the little drama that pops up from time to time. I am solution oriented, so my reaction is to figure out what is causing the feelings I am having and come up with a plan to work through it. The drama isn't what challenges me as much as it is the feelings that surface.
The things I continue to learn about myself:
~I am getting better at identifying the specific causes. You know really pin pointing the root.
~I am a processor. By that I mean I need to process things, usually verbally, out loud, to my husband. Who always graciously listens. Sometimes he knows nothing about the topic but he also knows I need to "talk it out". (Hmmm wonder where my oldest son gets that from.) And he doesn't try to fix me.
~I am learning new tools to deal with the feelings that stem from issues/drama. I am a "head on" person, so I like to deal with issues up front and honestly. But the feelings that the issues create in my body, that is a bit harder to handle. I have had not-so-good coping mechanisms in the past, but am really learning new tools.
~I really can change the tools in my tool box. Even though some of my coping mechanisms come from YEARS/DECADES of habit, they can be changed.
~I am so grateful that I love myself enough to make those changes, and work hard to do what is right for me.
~I have learned to say no, and say it easily, without any guilt attached. I know when it is time for me to let things go, and move on to something new.
So even though the stressful times are harder, I really learn things about myself with each step. And life seems to all come together in the end.